I have often heard and read that there are no more gentlemen out there anymore, and that they don't open doors, give up seats, etc...
That hasn't been my experience. And it isn't because I am somehow so special that they do things like that for me. Instead, I believe it is because of the way I present myself. How's that? To sum it up, I would say, "Like a lady." That is to say, I wear feminine clothes, (think skirts) act like a girl, smile, and so on.
It's interesting how differently my sisters and mom and I are treated. It is very common for men to open doors for us. We've even had them give up seats on occasion!
Basically, if you act and look like a lady, and the chances of being treated like one increase dramatically!
Personally, I try to encourage this behavior whenever I see it. Whenever I am shown gentlemanly courtesy, I say thank you and smile. When I see a man being gentlemanly to other ladies, I do the same thing. This is something that I will go out of my way to encourage. :)
I don't really blame the men for hesitating to open doors for women nowadays... they never know if they'll be slapped or thanked! (not that that's a really a good excuse, though.)
Just my thoughts on the subject... anyone else have any?